There are many excuses people use to avoid writing graduation thank you notes or Christmas thank you cards – or just saying thanks for whatever the particular occasion may be. But eventually, the time comes when it’s painfully obvious you should write and send that thank you note. Still, for many of us, we don’t feel ‘grateful’ enough to just pen the message and send it on its way.
Do you have your own go-to excuse for never saying ‘thanks’?
Here are a few responses to some of the most common excuses for avoiding thank you notes. Read carefully and put some real gratitude back in your thank you notes!
“Cards are boring.”
Cards get a bad rap. They’re known for being corny, formal, and cliché. But thank you cards don’t have to be this way! Stroll over to custom photo card websites to see how you can make your card as kooky, crazy, or quirky as you are. Choose from different layouts, fonts, colors, shapes, and sizes to create something original.
With custom photo custom cards, you can even add a picture. This instantly removes any feeling of being cliché or inauthentic and turns your card into a memorable keepsake, a gift in its own right.
“I have nothing to say.”
Most of us can relate to this. Staring at a blank card, trying to think up the perfect wedding thank you card ideas or the most inspiring, seasonal Christmas thank you cards wording is intimidating.
Take a moment to step back from the blank page, and simply contemplate the task at hand: there is some significant event that has transpired. To celebrate, a friend paused their own life, their schedule, and their obligations, with you, personally, in mind, to celebrate and commemorate the occasion with a gift. Isn’t that wonderful? It’s the gesture, and the relationship behind it that is important – not some ideal of glittering prose or perfect wording. Think about what you really mean to say, and say it.
If you’re still stuck in your head and the words won’t flow, try “free-writing.” Fill a full page or so with all your stray and miscellaneous reflections on the gift and the occasion, allowing your thoughts and statements to ramble on without a filter. Then, pick out a few phrases and well-worded statements that express how you feel. Refine, edit and voila – your thank you card wording is ready!
“But I hated the gift!”
This is the best excuse to not write a thank you note. What if you’re a passionate vegan who was sent specially-aged moose jerky for Christmas? Or what if the gift is so ugly or boring that you really think it’s just a waste of money? Worse gaffes have happened. So how do you write a thank you note for something you’re not thankful for?
The obvious answer is to re-gift the material possessions, but honor the intent of your friend or loved one. It’s not their fault that they didn’t get the memo that you’re allergic to peanuts or that you detest the color green. Especially when our family members live far away, running into these types of problems can be all too common.
But when you think about it, this disconnect between you and your loved ones only highlights the need for you to re-connect with them! Focus, again, on the intent behind your loved one’s actions. Perhaps your loved one really loves moose meat, and even though you are vegetarian in our above scenario, they meant to communicate a great deal of love and appreciation with their gift. Focus on that. After you thank them for their kindness, it’s optional whether you inform them of how useless their gift was. If you do, just remember to tread lightly, be gracious, and affirm that it still was meaningful that they sent anything at all.